Saturday, May 30, 2015

Please stop comparing Muslim women to diamonds and pearls


This is an excuse used to make sure Muslim women are all covered and hidden away from society. Like I have said before, Allah did not send women to this planet to be haraam or be controlled and dominated by men. He did not send women to earth so they can be molested and harassed. He did not send women to be constantly "protected" and monitored by men, nor did he send women to be a "fitnah" (Islam QA and other salafis love saying this about women). Allah also didnt create men as perverts who only think about sex (cultural and salafi muslims always use this as an excuse to enforce the idea women should be covered and hidden away from society. These fools dont realize there are times where sexual arousal is inapropriate. I have also written how muslims in muslim countries sexualize things prostitutes never could).

What's funny is that wherever you read this excuse of women being diamonds or pearls, there's either a video, a cartoon illustration, or an article, showing two types of women. Women who are scantily clothed, and women who are all covered up. Remember how many times I've said there's people in this religion of ours that can't differentiate between women wearing tight and revealing clothes, and women who are all covered up? Yeah. To them there's nothing in between. You're either a slut (their words) or a good Muslimah.

There's a lot of issues I have with this comparison of women being diamonds or pearls. For those of you who don't know, there's many muslims who claim women are too beautiful. They're precious like diamonds and pearls, and if they aren't covered, then they will get robbed. In other words, if they don't cover up, they're gonna get raped and harassed. Makes me wonder, do people actually rape diamonds? Do they pounce on them and start romping like no tomorrow? If diamonds or pearls caused us men to get all sexually aroused, why isn't every jewelry store covered in semen?

Comparing muslim women to such things means you're objectifying them. You aren't seeing them as human, they're just items to you..

Friday, May 29, 2015

Trying to understand a woman's dress in islam

Growing up in a multicultural, non-segregated, multi religious country, I thought hijab was only a choice. Then later on I was convinced hijab was Islamic because I read that Ibn Abbas (the first commentator on the Quran and a companion of the Prophet Muhammed pbuh) wrote it being necessary in his commentary of the Quran. Keep in mind there is no reliable hadith about hijab, so other than the commentary, there was no solid evidence for hijab. Because the Quran really doesn't mention much on how or what women should cover. So later on I was reading the commentary of Ibn Abbas and I found nothing about a woman's dress. Now I don't believe head covering is mandatory for Muslim women. Have a look at the following links: http://www.irfi.org/articles/articles_1_50/is_hijab_compulsory.htm
http://www.mwlusa.org/topics/dress/hijab.html
https://www.searchforbeauty.org/2016/01/02/fatwa-on-hijab-the-hair-covering-of-women/

Here are three videos from Dr. Shabir Ally:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mZTWz0k4CZY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mXWPmJVdbl0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d4hnD8DBdOo

In the Indian subcontinent, hijab among most women is not worn. Which is why so many Pakistani, Indian, and Bengali Muslim women have had their heads uncovered, both historically and today. Also historically in the Indian sub continent, there was no fatwa on women for not covering her head. So you can throw away that excuse by right wing Muslims who say there is an "ijma" (consensus) on women needing to cover their heads.

Now the debate is what type of clothing is appropriate. I keep on hearing Muslim women should wear clothes that don't show the shapes of the body. But this is just plain stupid, because whatever a woman wears, her body shapes will ALWAYS be visible. The movements of certain body parts will ALWAYS show, no matter what the clothing is. Women are shaped differently than men (they tend to have more fat in certain areas, and they tend to have wider hips, and so on). I have written extensively before about women needing to be modest in certain areas (not being tight or revealing in areas which cause arousal-butt, breasts, legs, and vagina) here:
http://mymuslimthoughts.blogspot.ca/2015/02/what-does-allah-mean-by-rebellious.html

Just because a woman is shaped in a certain way, it DOES NOT mean she is "showing off" her body. This is something Muslim communities need to understand. Just because she has a big butt, wide hips, big breasts, none of this means she is less religious. It does NOT mean she is a "whore" (their words, not mine). Tell yourself, when Muslim women are without hijab, they are just appearing as human. They are not "showing off" their beauty, they are just appearing as normal humans.

You don't need to wear a hijab, a burka, a niqab, or a jilbaab to prove you are a Muslim. You can wear anything, even western clothes, and STILL be modest.

Obviously there are certain types of clothing (yoga pants for example) which are meant to show off certain body parts. There is a difference between wearing these types of clothes which purposely show off body parts and wearing normal regular clothes where your body parts will show. There is a clear distinction between the two, and Muslims, especially Muslim men and judgmental Muslim women, cannot see this.

The body shapes of men also show. Should we wear hijab and burka? I know for a fact, as a male, my body shapes show. I wear very loose and baggy clothing, but I know my body movements will show. But you know what? I don't care. It is stupid for me to pay attention to how others will see me. If women or gay men get turned on by me, so be it. Why should I have to care about how they feel? In the EXACT SAME WAY, women shouldn't care either how their body shapes or movements will appear. It is plain stupid to worry how others will think of you.

The Quran is ambiguous in dress. And the aggressive attitudes many Muslims have, they should stop targeting the women. They should instead target the one who created her that way. Its not the woman's fault for being shaped the way she is. It is not her fault that her body movements will show. Sometimes it may seem Muslim women are wearing tight clothes, but again you have to keep in mind, she could just be shaped that way. So its not necessarily the clothes, but the shape of her body.

A few notes I want to make 1) Whatever the type of clothing a woman wears, it NEVER leads to rape. Certain types of clothing can cause sexual advances and arousal (clothing that is forbidden for Muslim women), but in general, clothing is not enough to get raped. Women in Europe and the Americas wear whatever, and MOST men are not gonna do anything. If anything, its gonna be men who are drunk, high, or those who have mental problems (such as abused when they were young) who are going to try something. The first two types are found in college parties and night clubs, where the sexual assault, sexual harassment, and rape of women is high. See these scholarly sources for proof of how clothing doesn't lead to rape: http://www.d.umn.edu/cla/faculty/jhamlin/3925/myths.html
https://well.wvu.edu/articles/rape_myths_and_facts
http://www.cps.gov.uk/legal/p_to_r/rape_and_sexual_offences/societal_myths/

 2) Hijab or burka will NOT STOP sexual assault or rape. Sexual assault and rapes are endemics in Egypt, Afghanistan, Iraq, Yemen, and Pakistan. And the women there are not wearing bikinis. They're covered head to toe. In such countries like these, it has become a culture to act this way towards women. On top of that, the police and justice systems do nothing, making rape and sexual assault pretty much legal. 3) Clothing is NOT an indicator of religiosity. You might want to check this link on why we can't judge other Muslims: http://mymuslimthoughts.blogspot.ca/2015/02/something-that-i-have-come-to-realize.html
4) Muslims from countries where women are covered head to toe will automatically assume the clothing of women is tight and revealing when they visit another country where women are not covered head to toe. You may want to check out this article of culture influencing people's perceptions of Islam: http://mymuslimthoughts.blogspot.ca/2015/04/does-culture-influence-our-views-on.html

Just because a woman is wearing a hijab or burka or jilbab, is does not mean she is more or less religious than a Muslim woman who doesn't wear hijba, burka, or jilbaab. There are women who cover themselves up, yet do heinous sins, and there are muslim women who don't cover up yet they are good practicing muslims.

So, 2 things:
1) Muslim women should be modest in areas that will cause arousal (butt, legs, vagina, breasts) so the clothing shouldn't be tight or revealing
2) HOWEVER, it is important to note that body shapes and body movements of women will ALWAYS be visible, not matter what the clothing is. Sometimes it may seem the clothing is tight, but its just the shape of the body. And we can't get angry at the woman because ALLAH MADE HER THAT WAY.

Thursday, May 28, 2015

Really? 4 girlfriends means we need to practice polygamy?

You constantly here this claim. It pisses me off every single time. And not just this specific claim, but what people say about polygamy in general. There was a woman on ummah forums saying she wants to marry a polygamous man, because all of the greatest Muslim men in history were polygamous (a flat out lie btw). This is how mentally unstable the woman is. And then we have the ever so famous Islam QA thinking they got polygamy down right correct, when in fact they're just bullshitting (see point number 6 and 7 here: http://mymuslimthoughts.blogspot.ca/2015/02/muhammed-al-munajjid-is-deviant-do-not.html).

Here's the ACTUAL deal on polygamy. It was revealed to do justice to the ORPHANS because many women at the time were not financially involved or educated. Many of their husbands would die because of wars, and they were the only source of protection. This isn't the case today, as Muslim women are excelling in every field out there. However, the salafi and cultural Muslims don't want to admit that, so they take incredibly screwed up views on polygamy, such as men needing to marry more than one so they don't take 4 girlfriends, or men needing to marry more than one so women can be taken care of so they don't become prostitutes (Islam QA said this).

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

Are there really 1.6 billion Muslims on this planet?

Many people say Islam will become the largest religion by 2050.

Here's the thing. The 1.6 billion Muslim figure is made up of Shias, Sunnis, Ismailis, Sufis, Salafis/Wahabis, Ahmadiyya's, and Quran alone. Sunnis and Shias don't see each other as Muslim, Shias and Sunnis don't see Ismailis and Sufis as Muslim, Shias and Sunnis don't see the Quran alone group as Muslims, Ahmadiiyas are not seen as Muslim by anybody, and the Salafis/Wahabis don't see anybody but themselves as Muslim. So how can there really be 1.6 billion Muslims?

I have mentioned the 25 types of people who really should not exist in the ummah (http://mymuslimthoughts.blogspot.ca/2015/02/the-idiots-who-should-not-exist-in-our.html) but they do. These people unfortunately exist in our religion, and they add to the 1.6 billion number.

Makes me think, would many Muslims (me included) accept a much smaller number of worldwide Muslims if we could kick out the idiots who shame us on a daily basis?

Friday, May 22, 2015

The common characteristics among all Salafists/Wahabists

1) They condemn others to hell and say we will be punished by Allah
2) They say we have given up our deen for dunya
3) They love accusing others of biddah
4) They love making takfeer on other muslims
5) They keep asking God to curse us
6) If you disagree with them, they say you are disagreeing with God and his messenger
7) If you go against their stupidity, you are a blasphemer
8) They love and ask for death among those who are against them
9) They run around screaming "sharia", and "Allah Akbar"
10) They really don't like women showing their faces, working, driving, playing sports, being in public, etc
11) They love claiming they are defenders of Islam